#30daysblogging Temenan, berantem, tiup kelingking.

Day 11

Post is an idea from Baginda Ratu

Post ini hanya akan seru ditulis pake bahasa Indo. Jadi gini ceritanya… Gue mau curhat. Ini kejadian yang udah lama banget terjadi tapi nggak pernah gue tulis karena… hmm, karena belum kepikiran aja kali ya… sampai si Fitri nanya di #30daysblogging giveaway tentang “lo pernah musuhan sama temen baik ga?” Baru deh gue inget cerita ini. Ini kejadian udah lama banget sebenernya, dan gue nggak mau sebut timeline nya kapan tapi kalian pasti bisa kira-kira sendiri lah yaaaa!

Sebut saja mawar (bukan nama sebenarnya)… Dia ini temen gue yang entah kenapa jadi nempel sama gue dan kemana-mana selalu ada dia. Dari yang ke kelas bareng, makan bareng, lama-lama nginep di kamar gue setiaaaappp hari. Pokoknya tiba-tiba jadi BFF tak terpisahkan gini ceritanya. Gue sempet gerah dan suruh dia pulang ke rumah karena gue butuh “me time” tapi sepertinya dia punya alergi being alone, so dia nginep di kamar teman se-kost gue. Nggak lama kemudian, dia malah pindah ke kost gue. So sekarang kita bener-bener tak terpisahkan. Udah gitu gue selalu dijadiin cover-up dia kalo dia selingkuh dong! Dan gue masih tetep mau temenan sama dia.

Gue sebenernya udah sadar dia itu punya unresolved problems di masa lalu but I was a teenager myself so I didn’t give a damn about anybody’s problem but mine. LOL. Anyway, she was actually a good friend and she was splurging me with free treats such as food and… um, only food, really. Haha. (I was such a hungry teenager)

Beberapa lama kemudian, gue pun sadar kalau barang-barang gue banyak yang ilang. Barang nggak penting sih, tapi aneh aja, kenapa bisa ilang. (FYI gue ini OCD ya! Gue tau barang gue apa aja dan ditaruh dimana) Gue kehilangan tank top, roti breadtalk (!!!), dan catokan rambut gue berubah bentuk!

Anak kost yang lain juga komplen hal yang sama. Ada yang kehilangan celana jeans, jepit rambut, CD lagu, flash disk, makanan di kulkas, sampe kantong kresek berisi MOMOGI!

Usut punya usut dan sempet maen detektif-detektif-an ala Conan (ini gue persingkat aja karena kalo gue ceritain detail nya bisa 10 hari nggak selesai) ketauan lah dia yang klepto-in tuh barang-barang semua. Gue jebol kamarnya (karena udah nggak tahan sama bohong2nya) dengan sepersetujuan anak kos-an and guess what I found????

Gue shock banget liat lemari dia isinya barang klepto-an semua, which is list barang-barang ilang seluruh anak kost-an. Dan yang paling aneh itu adalah… dia tuh tajir.

Kita ambilin balik semua barang-barang kita terus kita kunci balik kamarnya. Ketika dia pulang, dia tau barang-barang kita udah balik ke tempat semula, tapi dia NGGAK NGAKU LOH. Dia pura-pura gila aja, gitu!

Akhirnya gue confront lah si Mawar. “Gue tau lo klepto. Kita udah ambil balik semua barang kita dari lo. Nih tank top gue udah gue pake lagi!”

Dan tau nggak si Mawar bilang apa??? “Ngomong apa sih lo?” sambil pake muka bego dan memelas ala dia.

MALESIN DEEEEEEHHH!

Gue masih berbaik hati dong bilang ke dia kalo gue nggak akan musuhin dia kalo dia mau ngaku dan seek professional help atau bilang ke bokapnya lah at least. EH DIA TETEP GA NGAKU, malah ngegosip di kampus kalo gue jelek-jelekin dia. APA SEHHHH?! Gila yeeee! Gue tuh udah compromise kalo dia tuh klepto, hobby selingkuh dan banyak problem psikis lainnya, dan gue tetep mau jadi temennya, tapi kalo delusional begini sih udah nggak masuk akal deh!

Sakit jiwa deh ni anak. Terus sejak kejadian gue confront dia, kita musuhan lah. Gue lupa ada kejadian apa, tapi kita sempet berantem teriak-teriakan di kost-an sampe dipisahin anak kost-an. Ni anak udah sakit jiwa, delusional, gengges banget pula! Dia ke kampus nangis-nangis dan dengan dramatis nya cerita ke temen-temen barunya kalo gue ngebully dia. WTF, MAWAR!!!!

So, by this point gue udah muakkk mampus sama dia. Gue marah bukan karena dia klepto, tapi karena she was being such a bitch about it dan men-dramatisasi semua hal!! Gue paling males kalo berantem sama temen itu terus dianya sok sok lemah gitu dan bilang gue nge-bully dia. (Ini kejadian beberapa kali sama beberapa temen cewek yang berbeda BTW)

Gue kan emang rada preman, dan kalo gue marah, yah gue ngomong apa adanya. Nah, biasanya cewek itu nggak bisa terima dan langsung deh jadi one weak victim. IDIH PALING MALESSSSSSS!! Sini lah lawan gue balik kaleeeeee, jangan malah ngadu-ngadu ke orang. Malesin!

Kadang emang malesnya temenan sama cewek tuh kayak gitu. Conflict resolutionnya norak banget!

Anyway cuma ada satu temen cewek gue yang berhasil berantem sama gue dengan fair, which is si Strawberry. Sekarang kalo kita inget-inget lagi kejadian berantem dan baikan kita jaman kuliah tuh pasti ngakak. Sumpah deh, malu-maluin dan drama abis!!! Kita berantem pake banting-banting-an pintu, terus surat-suratan lewat disket (YES! Disket! Hahaha) terus maki-makian terus baekan nya najis banget kayak di film india. Si Strawberry lagi masak di dapur terus gue panggil kan, terus dia buang tuh sodet masakannya ke lantai terus meluk gue. HUWAHAHAHAHAHA! Anjiiiisss!

Jadi beginilah bedanya dua kasus yang berantemnya nggak baikan dan yang berantem nya baikan. But yeah, gue sering berantem sama temen, udah terlatih dari rumah kali ya. (LOL)

Jaman SD itu berantem nya musuh-musuhan dan gank-gank-an gitu deh. Gue termasuk yang jadi kepala gank hahaha. Nggak bangga juga sih, sekarang malah malu. Terus gue sering banget berantem, tapi masih batas wajar lah… Tapi ntar kalo gue punya anak, gue lebih pengen dia jadi anak cewe yang tough dan nggak menyek-menyek. Kalo diganggu temen yang hajar balik lah!

Semakin gede semakin jarang berantem, apalagi jaman kerja gini, yaelahhh mau berantem sama siapa seeeh?! Tapi mungkin juga karena sekarang udah nggak give a damn lagi loh. Kalo situ nggak demen cara gue, yah urusan situ, bukan urusan gue! Kalo pun berantem sama temen biasanya solusinya gampang… Kalo diomongin baik-baik nggak bisa ya udah, jadi temen maen biasa aja, gak jadi temen deket, gampang toh?

Gue nggak takut sama konflik. Konflik itu normal terjadi di semua hubungan, temenan kek, pacaran kek, tapi asal penyelesaiannya fair, gue nggak masalah. Justru kalo nggak pernah berantem sama temen itu namanya aneh. Either lo nggak punya karakter atau nggak punya temen. :p

Sebenernya gue tuh kalau udah sayang temen, bisa sayang banget. Tapi yah kalo ternyata temennya nggak sayang balik sama gue, yah paling gue bete for a while, terus move on loh. Disappointed sih, tapi yah, life goes on. Nggak semua orang bisa keep up with my expectation. LOL.

But I’m grateful with my friends. They are very very special. Dan empat bridesmaids gue itu… kadang gue ga habis pikir gimana mereka bisa keep up sama semua request-request gue dan kegalauan gue yang unreasonable (khusus masalah wedding). Gimana mereka masih bisa ketawa-ketawa bilang, “mukanya May kayak pantat waktu di Burgundy!” padahal mereka kena marah melulu. Maybe that’s what friends are for. Kalau posisinya dibalik, I would do ANYTHING for them too. :)

Di umur kita yang sekarang (maksudnya semakin tua, gitu) waktu kita sama teman pasti berkurang. Kita pasti spend more time sama keluarga inti (suami/istri/anak) but I hope that I could always ALWAYS spend my time with my friends. And I will always ALWAYS prioritize them over my work. Friends and family are the most important thing in our life. Don’t ever let them down just because “I don’t have enough time” or “I’m busy”.

You can never bring back the time you’ve lost.

Hmm, kayaknya udah makin nggak jelas nih blabbering gue, padahal tadi lagi ngomongin soal berantem-beranteman. But anyway, I think I am a good friend, thus I have incredible friends. ;)

And here’s  quote to end this post in a good manner:

Cheers,

May, mantan preman.

The bridesmaids trip and the sambel ijo.

Sorry it’s been too long since I made a proper post. This one, too, is not a proper post. It’s another rambling made on the train home, using my oh-so-smart phone.

I went to Bandung and Jakarta on the Chinese new year holiday and yes I pigged out like craaaaazy and I went back to Singapore SICK! Yes, apparently eating too much gorengan and sambel ijo can make you sick. Was having fever alone by myself because nobody was home yet! T.T

Indomie pake sambel ijo tertuduh

Indomie pake sambel ijo tertuduh

The next morning after that indomie and gorengan fiesta everyone were having sore throat and fire on their asses. We stayed together in one hotel room and everyone were fighting for bathroom. LOL.

Anyway, now I’m so busy juggling my mind between work and wedding planning. I have finally finished doing all the stationary for the wedding and hopefully it will go printing soon. Yes, as a certified OCD freak, I have to design all the stationary myself, and the decorations, and the table setting, and the canvas design.

I don’t complain though. The reason why I decided to make a DIY wedding is because I looove doing DIY! :) On the other hand, the D-Day planning is quite rough. I was so stressing out I might shout at my bridesmaids once or twice. Oh well I must be the most irritating bride ever. But in my defense, I was shocked by how expensive renting tiffany chairs can be. Arrghhh!

Road trip to Bandung. It was supposed to be bridesmaids only but well, I have awesome friends who are so helpful. =)

Road trip to Bandung. It was supposed to be bridesmaids only but well, I have awesome friends who are so helpful. =)

The beautiful mess on our table.

The beautiful mess on our table.

Wine tasting and finalizing menu.

Wine tasting and finalizing menu.

All vendors are checked but both wedding bands: the musical wedding band and the put-on-the-finger-ring-wedding band.

Uh oh, why am I ramblings about wedding? I just can’t help it. I feel like I’m constantly thinking about it, just like the time when I was in college and I was the chief head of an event. I was also stressing out. I cried once in front of the rest of the committee. What a day.

To be honest, I have already had my wedding meltdown. One afternoon when Bandi and I were brainstorming our guestlist, I suddenly cried and I told him I was stressing out because I have this bad habit to micro-manage everything even though I know it’s wrong. And Bandi was just being his usual sweet kind adorable self, telling me everything will be fine. And yes, I bought it. =)

I’ve spent the last three days editing my wedding video. Yes. I even created and edited my own videos! Freak! But I love doing it. =) I’m so gonna show it off later! It’s soooo cute it made me cry a couple of times when I watched it. It wasn’t a video actually. It was a compilation of thousands of our photos since the very beginning of our relationship. It was a love story. A real one. Ahhh! I can’t wait to show it off!

Ok ok, now let’s not talk about wedding anymore. Lately I’ve been drinking juice in a daily basis and it really makes me feel so much better! I usually drink apple-beetroot-carrot-celery juice but sometimes I mixed with cucumber, mint leaves. I also make smoothies from banana and berries sometimes. It’s been two month since I started drinking juice daily and I don’t get tired easily anymore. I also feel like having more energy than I was before. Well, I guess this is a good habit that I must keep.

Anyway, what’s your plan for the Valentine’s weekend?

Bandi and I will go for a 3 days 2 nights retreat for a catholic marriage preparation course. And I was asking him “will we sleep together?” and he was laughing like crazy, “this is a catholic activity, dear. TELL ME ABOUT IT!” Hahahaha! Duh! I thought since it’s in Singapore they would let the bride and groom to be to sleep in one room. LOL.

But I will prefer this over any romantic Valentine’s getaway. :) I know it’s important for him so this is important for me too. :)

So that’s it for now. I’m hoping to read so many lovey-dovey posts on my wordpress timeline this coming weekend! Don’t forget to tag me if you’re writing a love story! =)

Cheers,

May, exciting for the weekend!

Friendships are like wine.

As usual, every Thursday I dig in old photos for the Throwback Thursday. This is something that I’ve been doing since twitter had #followfriday. I’m a soc-med whore (it’s not a secret) so I like to do this kind of thing. Throwback Thursday is my favorite of all hashtag in instagram, because it made me dig old memories and I love reminiscing old memories. =)

This morning I opened one of my dropbox folder named “Seraphine Hangover”. It was full of inappropriate blurry photos but I managed to find the most decent one.

This one.

This is the most decent photo I could find. =)

The two girls with me are my bridesmaids and the three guys are the unofficial chauffeur for the wedding. :p

This photo was taken on September last year, not so long time ago. It was just a casual hangout with my best buddies in Jakarta. Everytime I come back to Jakarta, we always hang out together, some ended without voice because we sing like there’s no tomorrow in the karaoke room, some ended with endless KFC chicken in our tummies, some ended up drunk.

The photo above doesn’t represent the full team of my best buddies. Let me give you another photo:

Here!

Wait, wait... this is a very old old OLD photo. :p

Wait, wait… this is a very old old OLD photo. :p

This might do!

This might do! Don’t mind Bandi. :p

So yeah, we’re best buddies. We all hate and love each other at the same time. We’ve fought, we’ve made up, we aren’t always together but when we meet, we rock on!

We’ve been friends since kindergarten. Yap! It’s been… what?! 20 years of friendship??? Holy moly!!!

We got very very close when we were in the fifth grade and then during our junior high we’ve written a diary together. There were 13 diaries in 3 years school-span. And trust me, everytime I read those diaries, I would crack my butt up for laughing too hard!!! LOLOLOL. How stupid we were. LOLOLOL

I watched a movie “Las Vegas” last Wednesday, it was about 4 best buds who have been friends since they were kids and they’re still friends in their sixties.

Bandi and I went to Bandi’s bestfriend’s wedding last Saturday. We went to Palembang for one day just to attend the wedding. After the wedding we hung out and Bandi could always act like a kid around his bestfriends. They don’t see each other so often but when they do, it’s just so cute seeing them calling each other names.

Anyway, what I was about to say is…

I just can’t imagine how my life would be without my friends. They’re like my family, my brothes and my sisters. We’ve been through so many things yet we’re still friends. No matter if we’re rich, poor, ugly, pretty, fat, skinny, no matter what race we are, no matter whom we love or what we’re doing, and no matter what we turned out to be, we are still friends. We were friends before we knew money, before we even got our period, before all the ugliness in the world tried to invade.

Just hanging out all night, singing our hearts out with one guitar.

Just hanging out all night, singing our hearts out with one guitar.

We just love to sing!

We just love to sing!

It was probably Avril's or Kelly Clarkson's song.

It was probably Avril’s or Kelly Clarkson’s song.

I love every one of them. =)

Friendships are like wine, the older the better.

(and also, they make you drunk. LOLOLOL)

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Cheers,

May, who misses her friends so bad.

P.S: My previous post involving a wedding received hits tripled than usual. Whoa! Are people loving my bitching, or loving the wedding talks? Xp

When this blog returns to its blabbering habit

Hey cherry pies! Happy new year!

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Today I woke up in the morning thinking to write one honest post in my blog. I guess it’s been a while since I blabber about my crappy awesome life, that’s weird because I love talking about my life! Lol

I think I’ve been so busy with post-europe stuffs, wedding prep, xmas and new year (both real new year and chinese new year) oh well, I’ve just been busy with life actually. I didn’t really have spare time to write anymore. I read some blog posts from my favorite blogger on my phone inside the mrt train and didn’t leave comments because writing comments in mobile phone sucks.

I hope after all the year-end fiesta ends, I could live my slacking life again. I kinda love it being a lazy ass. I did write some stuffs inside my drafts but I didn’t know why I didn’t publish it. I guess I want to have a clean posts in 2013 that don’t suck. 2013 was actually a good year for my blogging life. :)

But from today, I guess I will revert back this blog to be full of craps again. Lol. Just kidding, I will try to write some unedited honest post some time.

How’s your countdown and your first morning in 2014? Mine started exactly the same like last year… Cleaning up the house full of spilled alcohol, confetti and crashed m&m’s, not to forget to brush off toilet full of pukes. Eww… what a glamorous way to start a new year, right?

Talking about new year, people like to tell about their new year’s resolution. I think I’m one of those people who is goal-oriented so my resolutions were usually well done in the past years. My 2013 resolutions were to sit up everyday and I’ve done it until I went to Europe, so I’d been doing sit ups everyday for 10 months.

What about this year’s resolution? Well, I decided not to make one. I will stick to that “sit up everyday” thing but I won’t call it a resolution because I want to make it my permanent lifestyle. I really want to have a great abs again. And to complete that… I think I have to stop drinking. I hate the feeling of waking up remembering blurry night and having spinning morning. Ok, that’s crap. I won’t totally stop drinking, but I will drink less. I promise I won’t drink during weekdays anymore because it was so tiring to wake up early and work the next day. I also promise not to do any excessive drinking at least until my wedding, or my bachelorette party (if that’s happening-ahem, hint to the bridesmaids!) But well, promise is a big word….. Hmm… Ok now I’m being indecisive. But I do really want to drink less! Ok but maybe not a promise. :p

Anyway, I don’t want to leave an impression as if I’m a loser drunkrad. I’m not, ok? It’s just that last year I had a lot of drinks maybe because I was stressed out and tense. Hmm… That’s a lie, I wasn’t stressed out! I just like to drink! Lololol.

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I should start being serious, shouldn’t I?

Ok, enough talking nonsense, let’s talk about what has been going on in my life lately…

Well life’s been good. I made peace with my brother and that fact put a smile on my face everytime I remember it. I’ve been missing my friends so much but now that Strawberry is visiting, it cheers me up. :) I don’t have any travel plan for 2014, I guess Bandi and I are focusing the funds for the wedding. Oh boy wedding is costly! But again, that depends on who spends it. Some people spent 10 times more and they would probably think it was a cheap wedding. Well for me, I would want to spend my wedding funds for another Europe trip, but Bandi always reminded me that the money will be well spent because he promised that it’s going to be the night when we celebrate love. And that sounds pretty awesome.

I try not to write my wedding prep in my blog because the wedding is very very small and I don’t invite a lot of people (bcoz it’s small, duh!) so I don’t wanna be like those annoying kids who show off their new toy but wouldn’t share to play together. LOL.

I just want to say that everything goes according to plan, yeah of course there are some hiccups here and there but hey who doesn’t, right?

Thank you for the kind encouragements I’ve received, I didn’t know before that planning a wedding took times and energy so an encouragement did cheer me up. :)

Hmm, what else… Oh! 2014 will also be full of bandi’s friends’ wedding so I will need to travel back and forth to Indo a lot of times. That’s tiring but Bandi always say yes to invitation, he’s a people pleaser. So I guess I have to tag along.
For me, I usually don’t go to friend’s wedding unless they’re very close to me. It’s not that I’m rude or anything but I would want to come to a wedding where I know the love story of the people who weds, I’m a romantic! But in my inner circle, I’m the first who get married and that’s pretty annoying because I’m the one who always said “don’t get married too fast” but here I am, 27 years old and freaking engaged! (Just kidding bandi! You know I love you, right?)
Did I have the regret to be engaged young? Hmm, sometimes I do think about it… I think 28 years is too young to be married (my opinion) but then I always tell myself that I’m marrying a very wonderful man whom I’ve known so well and he wouldn’t abuse me or sell my kidneys once we got married. Lol.

I think that’s enough for the first blabber in 2014… I wouldn’t want to spill all the craps now. I will go to KL tomorrow with Strawberry and will be back to Spore on Sunday, so until then, be good! =D

But one thing for sure... 2014 will be the awesomest year ever because I can't wait to marry my bestfriend. =)

But one thing for sure… 2014 will be the awesomest year ever because I can’t wait to marry my bestfriend. =)

Cheers,

May, isn’t really sure if she’s sober.