Long Distance Relationship Sucks!
I know I’ve written those words hundred times. But why am I still in one? And if you all think it really really sucks, why are you still fighting for it?
and especially Shiulen, who had been up and downs with it, and who saved my ass from the fire. ;p
This post is created for you guys! And for those who will have an LDR.
Some of you might have a very long conversation with me before about this shit. And however, you’ve forgotten it, becuase I still had some curse and complain about it, which is okay! Because I, too, called my bestfriend in the middle of the night and cried.
(you would never turn off your cellphone as long as Bandi is still in Texas, Len!)
Just open this post whenever you think you have reached your limit and you’d find out, it wasn’t your limit, it was just your emotion because you love him (I use male’s phrase) so much but you can only see his face on your fuc*in monitor and sometimes it was even call-dropped!
I want you to think of the times when the two of you said your last goodbye and how you were very sure that someday, you’d see him again. I want you to remember your promise to yourself that you wouldn’t be that stupid to stop loving him just because you’re on different page of atlas! And don’t even let me start about your words to your friend that ‘you can do it’ and your friends made those frawn upon you, but you thought ‘hell, I’m really gonna be through it!’.
Come one guys!! Love is struggling! And we have each other’s back!
These are things I’ve been thinking of when those damn hormones aren’t working:
- Understanding. It’s really REALLY important. If you think that he’s so selfish and not understand you first, you’ve really got to quit this LDR! (Yeah, Len.. I know, It’s your words! You should make your own blog!). You have to stop counting how much you suffer or how many tears you’ve drop for crying all night. Because you need to lengthen the compromise line when you’re in LDR. I know it sucks guys! But, how bad do you want to be with him? how bad do you want to survive? If you want it that bad, COMPROMISE FIRST!
- Good Times ONLY. Yep, while you’re in LDR, never NEVER think about bad times! Because you’re not in the same place where you can hug him or touch him to make him feel that you love him or make you feel that he loves you. So, there’s no romance in LDR. You can curse about it, but remembering bad times would just make you suffer more coz you can’t do anything to fix it! And all you need is to remember your good memories with him. And trust me, it’s really working!
- Stop fighting over simple stuff. It’s really hard, especially for me, the one who always pay attention to simple things. And when you’re in LDR, your relationship with him would only involve messenger, video call, phone call, and emails. So, you won’t complain about his bad habits in real life, such as: making your room messy, dress really clumsy to dinner, or buy you a coca cola instead of strawberry milk. You would find simple things mattered more, such as: he mistyped “I love you” to be “I loev yu” or he kept moving while he’s on the phone with you so the signal is gone. I know it’s all annoying when it’s all the only thing you do with him, but… this point is coming back to point 1, compromise more!!!
One thing will always work for me is…. seeing my pictures with him.
He’s the only person who could make me laugh like this.
He made me happier than I ever thought I could be.
And I need to spend the rest of my life, laughing like that.
Why bother the distance and the hormones?
While the happiness in my life is to see his smiling back at me when we’re meeting again at the airport someday.
Maybe you’re the lucky ones.
God really loves you so much, then He gave you this drama to conquer. So, think about it… If you can get through this, there’s nothing that you can’t face together with him! And the two of you will be very VERY proud.
To quote Bandi:
It’s just temporary… And it’s all gonna be sooo worth it.
Still hanging in there?
Just buzz me on my messenger, or maybe join me in hundreds of crying night in front of the monitor. :p